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Everyday Miracles MIRACLE "NUGGETS" The Seduction of Blame: Blame is an ego-drug, making you feel superior and better than making others superior and better than others. But in the process, blame seduces you away from your goals, dreams, and stops your forward progress dead in its tracks. Don't let blaming others stand in the way of your accomplishments, and don't let a greedy ego suck the life out of your dreams. (Page 167) Approval vs. Love: Approval isn't love. Just because a person approves of who and what you are doesn't mean he loves you. Love is caring about the other person as he is, valuing him as he is, seeking to know and understand him as he is, and finding ways to be yourself harmoniously with his and your true selves. (Page 140) Breaking the Self-Pity Habit: Self-pity is the licking of wounds. It makes us feel temporarily better but doesn't fix the problem. By continuing to have a "poor me" mentality you disempower yourself. Take back your power. Lick your wounds for a few minutes and then take charge. Self-pity is a seductive drug. Don't let it dissipate your power. (Page 125 Redefining Failure: There is no such thing as failure. There is only experiencing life and learning. If you adopt this point of view, everything becomes possible. (Page 238) Developing Trust: You cannot fully be yourself with someone and enjoy a deeply satisfying relationship unless your trust the other. To develop trust, take a calculated risk by slowly sharing vulnerable but small portions of yourself and observing how the other reacts. Listen to what the person says; watch what he does. Trustworthy people back up their words with action, and untrustworthy ones don't. Learn to develop trust safely and you'll enjoy genuinely fulfilling relationships. (Page 253). Short-Term Gain vs. Long-Term Pain: We are a fast-food, do-it-now society, which means we frequently fail to look at long-term consequences. Our desire for quick and easy decisions too often leads to more pain than gain. Balance your initiative and go-get-'em enthusiasm with careful thought as to where your decisions and choices are likely to lead you. Increase your opportunities for happiness by avoiding the consequences of hurry-up decisions. (Page 245) The Negativity Grinch: Don't let negativity stop you cold in your tracks. Turn it into a positive! Negativity, in its place, is healthy. It is what makes us ask questions, look twice at things, weigh the evidence and take precautions. It only loses value when its "approach with caution" helper turns in a "don't/can't/won't do/be anything right" hinderer. Keep negativity in perspective, as a helpful warning, a motivator and a useful catalyst for change. (Page 219) [ Buy This Book ] | ||||||||||||
