to Stop Domestic Violence before It Stops You (Insight Books)
Know the warning signs of domestic violence to prevent abuse.
More than four million Americans fall victim to domestic violence
each year. Even the famous, including Tina Turner, Greg Luganis
and Brett Buttler, are not immune. Millions of words have been
written addressing the violence already taking place in homes
across the country, but very little attention has been given
to how to prevent domestic violence from happening in the first
play. That's why I wrote Dangerous Relationships: How
to Stop Domestic Violence Before It Stops You.
Domestic violence does not occur in a void. There are common
characteristics that run through most domestic violence relationships.
Readers can use this information to stay clear of relationships
that exhibit the signs that may be preludes to violence. Dangerous
Relationships is written from the perspective of the battered
It uses four distinct relationships to show how the aggressive
parnters behave in certain characteristically predictable ways,
which almost always leads to violence. The predictability of
an abuser's behavior is what makes domestic violence, to a large
degree, preventable. These relationships appear, at first, quite
different from each other: Mary and John (heterosexual lovers),
Bob and Karen (husband and wife), Peter and Tony (homosexual
lovers), and Teri and Ann (platonic roommates).
As these real-life scenarios develop in the book, readers will
realize that these relationships have much in common--all have
the same underlying dynamics that foster domestic violence--whirlwind
beginnings, possessiveness, a Dr. Jekyll/Mr.Hyde personality,
victim blaming, verbal abuse, insensitivity, and finally, violence.
I write both from personal and professional experience. I have
been a victim of domestic abuse, and as a psychologist and trial
consultant, I have worked with hundreds of individuals caught
in the pain of domestic violence. It doesn't have to be this
way! Dangerous Relationships will help you see the way through
the pain to a healthy love--the kind that doesn't include visits
to the emergency room.
the insightful First Chapter of "Dangerous Relationships"
LIBRARY BOOKNOTES MAY 6, 1998
Domestic violence threatens to reach epidemic proportions in
the United States. Recognizing the danger signs before irreparable
harm occurs is the technique stressed in this insightful guide
to identifying, avoiding or escaping these dangerous situations.
Notes from the Back Cover
and important book! People in love tend to overlook, rationalize
and justify unhealthy behaviors and patterns.
This book will help shake them out of that fantasy by giving
both men and women the awareness they need to spot a potentially
disastrous relationship. DANGEROUS RELATIONSHIPS could be a lifesaver."
- Susan Forward, Ph.D
important book for every woman who has had an abusive relationship,or
who is newly into a relationship in which there
are warning signs surrounding control and power. Dr. Nelson has
made it quite clear that the pattern can be discovered early
in a relationship, and that a woman can get out before she gets
- Sherry Simmons, Executive Director, The Support Network for
highly recommend this book to anyone who may be in a violent
or to a relative or close personal
friend who has concerns about the safety of someone they love."
- Diane P. McGauley,Chair, Texas Council on Family Violence.
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